Gill Crea
Getting to Know Autism
Autism Spectrum Condition (ASC) is a different way of seeing and interacting with the world! It’s called a “spectrum” because every autistic person experiences it differently. Some might be chatty and love to interact, while others could be more reserved and may not speak at all. Some kids thrive in social situations, while others enjoy their own company. It’s important to remember that autism is not an illness; it’s simply a unique way that some brains process information! As a mum of two autistic children and being neurodivergent myself, I thought it would be useful to share what I’ve learned about supporting my own autistic children. That’s the goal of this blog, and I hope you find it helpful!
What Autism Might Mean for Your Child
- Sensory Sensitivities: Many children on the spectrum have varying sensitivities to sounds, lights, and textures. Loud noises or bright lights might be too much for them.
Tip: Keeping noise-cancelling headphones or a calming toy handy can work wonders. Creating a cosy, quiet spot at home can be a lifesaver during overwhelming moments. We stopped going to the supermarket for this reason and rely on home deliveries. Plus, I hate the supermarket—it’s too loud, and I tend to buy things we don’t need. It has certainly cut our shopping bill down, if nothing else
- Social Challenges: Your child might find social situations tricky, struggling with eye contact or reading body language. They may want friends but feel a bit lost in social interactions.
Tip: Gentle guidance in social settings using simple language can help. Joining small group activities or playdates can provide meaningful social practice. Extraordinary Links offers an Activity Group and Social Minecraft group in a safe setting. The children are free to interact or not, but it can help with communication skills in a safe place.
- Communication Differences: Every child communicates uniquely. Some kids may chat a lot, others might not, and some can express themselves through scripts from their favourite shows. Remember, actions often speak louder than words, and behaviour is a form of communication!
Tip: Encourage any form of communication that feels right for your child, such as sign language, picture boards, or even using fun apps on a tablet.
- Repetitive Behaviours: Autistic children may engage in repetitive actions, like hand-flapping or lining up toys. These can be calming and help them manage feelings or sensory experiences.
Tip: Embrace these behaviours—they’re often a source of comfort and control. Join in the fun; I love flapping along with my daughter!
Discovering the Strengths in Autism
While there are challenges, children with autism often shine in unique ways! Recognising these strengths can boost your child’s self-esteem and growth.
- Attention to Detail: Many children have an amazing knack for spotting patterns and details that others overlook. My son, for instance, is a wizard at programming games on Scratch—his creativity is awe-inspiring!
- Deep Focus: When your child finds something they’re passionate about, they often dive in wholeheartedly. This intense focus can lead to incredible skills in art, math, or hobbies. My daughter, for instance, loves K-pop, so she has downloaded a language-learning app to learn Korean.
- Honesty: Kids on the spectrum often possess a beautiful honesty. They might be direct, which can lead to genuinely open conversations.
Encouraging your child to explore and nurture their interests can help them develop confidence and appreciate their unique strengths!
Common Parental Challenges and How to Tackle Them
- Managing Sensory Sensitivities: It’s not unusual for children with autism to feel overwhelmed in busy spaces.
Tip: Stay alert to your child’s signals—if they seem uneasy, gently lead them to a quieter area. Introducing calming techniques like deep breathing or soothing music can be helpful, too, or even giving them a favourite toy to help them regulate.
- Navigating Social Situations: Social interactions can be a stressor. Your guidance as a parent can make a significant difference.
Tip: Practice social scenarios at home through role-playing. It’s a fun way to demonstrate starting conversations or taking turns; smaller groups can ease the pressure.
- Communication Difficulties: If your child struggles to express themselves, it can lead to frustrations for both of you. Finding the right communication style is key.
Tip: Be patient and offer various ways for them to communicate, whether through verbal prompts, gestures, or fun tech tools. We succeeded in using Makaton, which enhanced our communication by combining visual and verbal cues! We used Mr Tumble, Sing and Sign, and various YouTube tutorials.
Crafting a Supportive Home Environment
- Structure and Routine: A consistent routine can help autistic children feel secure and lessen anxiety.
Tip: Visual schedules or timers can clearly outline daily plans. Giving prior notice and explaining what’s next helps when changes arise, too.
- Cosy and Calming Space: A snug corner where your child can retreat when overwhelmed is essential. Imagine a spot filled with comfy cushions and soothing sounds!
Tip: This safe haven provides them the chance to recharge and self-regulate.
- Encouraging Independence: Helping your child build independence can be a huge confidence booster. Start with manageable tasks, like tidying up or getting dressed. I have so much fun cooking with my kids; it’s a skill they’ll need as they grow!
Tip: Break tasks into bite-sized steps and celebrate every win, no matter how small—these little victories build their confidence! When asking to tidy up, for example, break this down; for example, put all your toys in a pile so we can find a place for them. We take a photo of the room before tidying so we can see what needs doing. Taking a photo after and comparing the two with your child can give a sense of accomplishment, it always helps me and I am terrible at housework!
- Fostering Social and Emotional Growth
- Understanding Emotions: Kids may need a little help recognising or expressing their feelings.
Tip: Use visual aids like emotion cards to identify feelings; we found ones with photos of real people that are less abstract and easier to understand. You can also chat about characters’ emotions in their favourite shows to help them connect.
- Building Friendships: many kids wish to make friends despite social challenges. Providing chances for social interactions is so important!
Tip: Arrange playdates and consider joining local activity groups like the Extraordinary Links Activity Group. Modelling social interactions or engaging with stories about friendships can also work wonders.
Finding Support and Building a Community
- Support Groups: Connecting with other parents through support groups can be incredibly valuable. Sharing experiences and tips can help you feel less alone! Extraordinary Links partnered with Avonmouth Community Centre to offer a peer support group, and many other organisations, such as the Bristol Autism Support Group and Bristol Parent Carers, offer this, too.
- Professionals and Specialists: Therapists like speech and occupational therapists can make a big difference in your child’s life. It’s essential to partner with those who appreciate neurodiversity and take a positive, strengths-based approach.
- Being an Advocate: Be your child’s champion, especially in school. Collaborate with teachers to ensure your child’s needs are met, from sensory accommodations to supportive teaching techniques.
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